Dear Teachers,

 

It was the summer of 2008 as I sat and cried all through the church service.  Not just tears, but the gasping, heaving, ugly cry.

A dear friend couldn’t help but notice that I was in distress as we were filing out of the pews after the service.  She responded, “I’m going to call you this afternoon.”

“O-o-ooo-kaaaay”, I cried.

My cries had stifled to a steady stream of tears as I ate a quick lunch at home and got my family ready to go meet friends for an afternoon pool date.

The phone rang and on the other end of the line, I heard my friend’s voice asking me what was wrong.  The ugly cry was back in full force, and not wanting my daughter to hear nor see me in such a state, I shut myself inside my closet and wailed,  ”I… have… to go…back to sc-schooool t-t-tomorroooow.”

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While it took some explaining on my part for my friend to understand my distraught state, I bet most teachers reading this understand completely, if not empathize.

We leave behind the lazy days of summer spent relaxing with our families, pursuing hobbies and dreaming of the day we don’t have to work and are swept into the whirlwind that is “Back to School.”  Once we walk through those classroom doors, life becomes like a runaway train and we’re left constantly chasing after time.  More aptly said, it is like going from 0 to 60 in 1 second.

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So, I want to encourage you, dear teachers, friends, to take care of yourself this school year.  You can work until the janitor locks the building every night and still not get it all done.   Those hours will lead you to burn-out before you can say ‘Winter Break.’

When you go home at the end of the day, leave school in the classroom.  You deserve to come home to a respite, clear your mind and spend time rejuvenating.   Not only will you will be better for it, but so will your family and your students.

I know what you’re thinking. There isn’t enough time in your school day to grade papers, prepare lessons, return parent phone calls, attend meetings, enter scores, clean the classroom, help the new teacher, tutor struggling students, complete committee responsibilities, gather teaching materials, and still be able to get home at a reasonable hour, cook a decent meal, help the kids with homework, do a load of laundry……I know.

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If you choose to neglect your personal well-being, if you choose to let the school year dominate your life, you are playing victim to the profession.  Don’t be a victim.  Victims don’t make good teachers.  Victims don’t make good mothers.  Victims don’t make good wives.  Victims don’t make good colleagues, friends, or neighbors.

After being the victim for so long,  one Monday morning last school year, I broke down, snapped, lost my marbles, went off the deep end, whatever you want to call it, and in a zombie-like state of mind, resigned.

So, please, teachers, take care of yourselves this school year.       There are plenty of resources for organizing tasks and managing your time.  Use them.  Decide what your time is worth and buy it back if you need to.  Get a cleaning service.  Hire a babysitter.  Limit social media.  Reserve weekends for family.  Do what it takes to choose life.

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The friend who called me that afternoon, later ran into another teacher friend of hers at the gym. Guess what?  That teacher was teary-eyed and sad over leaving behind the days of summer with her family to start another school year.   Ummm, I’m not gonna lie: I was relieved to hear that, “I wasn’t the only one.”

And in sharing this story recently with a young teacher friend of mine, she said, “Oh my gosh, I’m so glad you shared that.  I thought I was crazy for being upset about summer coming to an end.”  That’s when I knew I needed to share this you all of you.

I’m thinking about you and wishing you a most successful 2012 -2013 school year!  My door, and my wine bottle ;), are always open if you need to talk to someone who has been there…

See you in class,

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After 17 years in an elementary classroom, Mrs. Hines retired from teaching to pursue her passions: decorating, writing and homemaking. While her formal education is in teaching, she discovered her talent for design at a young age and is a self-taught decorator. Mrs. Hines' DIY spirit has earned her appearances on the show Deals which airs on the Live Well Network. She continues to teach and inspire on her popular Lifestyle blog, Mrs. Hines' Class. Homemaking is Mrs. Hines' first love. So, when she isn't decorating or writing, you can find her at home watching television with Mr. Hines or trying to keep up with her teenaged daughter.

Comments

  1. Sharon,
    Thanks for the words of encouragement! I’m already anxiously counting down the days left in August…

  2. Dear Sharon, As a teacher, I’ve so been there in that frenzied state and feeling like I couldn’t do anything well because there was WAY too much to do. Sometimes I think I’m looked down upon by other teachers because I refuse to put in a 24/7 schedule anymore. Been there, done that and I’m NOT going back there. Otherwise I would’ve snapped and quit. I agree, we all need to find how much we can give to each area of our lives and not kill ourselves trying to be all things to all people.
    My train leaves in the morning and hopefully I won’t be going so fast I forget to wave.
    Thanks for your post today!
    Beth

  3. Kathryn, as you read, I’m all too familiar with that anxious feeling. The good thing is that you get to ease into the year with inservice. And after the first few days, you slip into the routine and it feels like you never left. Wishing you a wonderful school year!

  4. I have a very good feeling that you’ll be waving from that train!

  5. I have felt that pain – year after year! It is worth it all though!

  6. I think a drastic transition is hard for anyone. The comfort for teachers comes in knowing that all of those emotions settle as soon as those kiddos walk into your classroom. Then it’s back to the routine as usual.

  7. Dear Sharon,

    I write to you from the other side of the world, but teaching is just the same here. Yesterday I was a sobbing mess in the headmaster’s office because an exceptionally difficult parent had yet another go at me (the umpteenth time this year). This time she was unhappy that her son got reprimanded for calling out in class. She says she has told her son that he must call out and shout the teacher down if he wants to, because she would prefer him to use his voice instead of his fists. I patiently explained that I cannot allow children to shout over me while I am giving instruction and she stormed into the office to demand that her child is removed from my class.The headmaster told her that he would not move her child and so now she is going to be looking for more reasons to complain for the rest of this school year. I try so hard to leave school behind each day, but I have not yet found a way to do so. I am sorry to write such a long letter, but if you can tell me how to switch off, I would be so very grateful. God bless.

  8. Oh, Karen, I’m so, so sorry that you are having to deal with this. I’ve been in your shoes on more than one occasion. I know how devastating this can be. Thank you for reaching out to me. I’m going to email you so that we can continue this conversation.
    Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

  9. Excellent advice, Sharon.
    I’m sure that many will take it to heart and recognize that they are close to being in your shoes. Those shoes you don’t wear anymore…good for you! Our pain always helps another. So glad you shared.

  10. Thank you, Tina. I sure hope that I can encourage at least one person.

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