~You might be a helicopter parent if you cut up your child’s food and feed her in the school cafeteria.
~If you’re excited about the “A” that you got on your child’s science project, you might be a helicopter parent.
~You might be a helicopter parent if you consider changing schools because your child wasn’t assigned to the same class as his best friend.
~If you’ve ever hung around the school building after dropping your child off in class, hoping to get glimpses of her in school, you might be a helicopter parent.
~You might be a helicopter parent if you refuse to believe that your child could ever do anything wrong, even telling the teacher “my child is perfect.”
~If you’ve ever stuck around during recess just so you could wipe the sweat off your child’s brow, you might be a helicopter parent.
We can laugh at these little anecdotes, but the truth of the matter is that they are all things that, as a teacher, I have witnessed. Yes, these things really happened.
It is a parent’s natural instinct to protect their children, and parents can be their child’s best advocate. But somewhere along the way, our protective instincts got a steroid shot, and we’ve taken it way too far.
I have wanted to snatch some people bald-headed on behalf of my daughter.
For years, I have longed to find a way to tell parents that being over protective is far more detrimental to their child than helpful. I couldn’t come out and say that in the classroom. It isn’t politically correct.
But now that I’m not in the classroom, I have the freedom to come alongside you and be more open.
I shared this quote on Friday, but it bears repeating. And if you haven’t yet, please read the blog post that goes along with it at All Things Heart and Home.
This is a message that we need to realize, and let sink into our understanding as parents. I want to leave you with a challenge before I go, and it is this: Ask yourself “why?” Why do you go to such lengths?
And I’ll give you a hint, the answer is not “because I’m a parent, and it’s my job to protect my child.” The obsessive behavior of the “helicopter parent” goes far beyond that, and it’s going to require some soul-searching on our part.
When doing my own soul searching, the answer has more to do with personal fears. We should not take our fears out on our children.
You can be angry with me. But know that I have your, and especially your child’s, best interests at heart.
See you in class,