Signs You Might Be a Helicopter Parent

~You might be a helicopter parent if you cut up your child’s food and feed her in the school cafeteria.

~If you’re excited about the “A” that you got on your child’s science project, you might be a helicopter parent.

~You might be a helicopter parent if you consider changing schools because your child wasn’t assigned to the same class as his best friend.

~If you’ve ever hung around the school building after dropping your child off in class, hoping to get glimpses of her in school, you might be a helicopter parent.

~You might be a helicopter parent if you refuse to believe that your child could ever do anything wrong, even telling the teacher “my child is perfect.”

~If you’ve ever stuck around during recess just so you could wipe the sweat off your child’s brow, you might be a helicopter parent. 

We can laugh at these little anecdotes, but the truth of the matter is that they are all things that, as a teacher,  I have witnessed.   Yes, these things really happened.

It is a parent’s natural instinct to protect their children, and parents can be their child’s best advocate.  But somewhere along the way, our protective instincts got a steroid shot, and we’ve taken it way too far.  

I have wanted to snatch some people bald-headed on behalf of my daughter.

For years, I have longed to find a way to tell parents that being over protective is far more detrimental to their child than helpful.   I couldn’t come out and say that in the classroom.  It isn’t politically correct.

But now that I’m not in the classroom, I have the freedom to come alongside you and be more open.


I shared this quote on Friday, but it bears repeating.   And if you haven’t yet, please read the blog post that goes along with it at All Things Heart and Home.  


This is a  message that we need to realize, and let sink into our understanding as parents.   I want to leave you with a challenge before I go, and it is this:  Ask yourself “why?”   Why do you go to such lengths?

And I’ll give you a hint, the answer is not “because I’m a parent, and it’s my job to protect my child.”   The obsessive behavior of the “helicopter parent” goes far beyond that, and it’s going to require some soul-searching on our part.

When doing my own soul searching, the answer has more to do with personal fears.  We should not take our fears out on our children.

You can be angry with me.  But know that I have your, and especially your child’s, best interests at heart.

See you in class,

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  1. I saw helicopter parent and I had to click over 🙂
    I’ve always been one of those parents and as my babies have all grown and gone I’ve been forced to let go and pray. It’s the hardest thing to do as a parent isn’t it? Sigh. And since mine are in their 20’s and 30’s I can tell you it doesn’t get easier!!!
    Good word Sharon xo

  2. My Dad has told me that parents never stop seeing their kids as their babies, no matter how old they get.

    And as my daughter gets older, she’s almost 15, I still think of her as my little girl. It is indeed, hard to let go.

  3. Oh Sharon I completely agree! Good for you ~ you put it out there.
    Believe me with our first baby getting ready to start high school in August, I’m freakin’ out. But I know in my heart she’ll do great…especially if her mommy and daddy don’t swoop in and hover.
    Thank you for the reminder, my friend.
    Cheers to you and yours,
    P.S. I’ve been doing the ‘stetching’ the last few nights before I hit the hay and it works like a charm. Plenty of sweet dreams here. 🙂

  4. The very best part about letting go and letting God is seeing how HE works in our children’s lives. Watching our children work through difficulties is hard as parents until we remind ourselves of the FATHER who holds the in the palm of His hand! He’s got this!

  5. That is so true. Thank you for that reminder.

  6. My daughter is starting high school in the fall too. I’m nervous! But, like you, I know she’ll do just fine…without me. 🙂

    I’m SO GLAD to hear that the stretch routine is working for you!!

  7. Love this SHaron. I am so NOT a helicopter parent, although inside I probably am, I just do not show it. I have learned to keep a watchful eye, while at the same time letting them be who they are, make their mistake, grow and learn from them. Good thing is, we have lots of open communication in our home, so any time, those boys can come to us with anything. So far so good. High School has been a wonderful experience so far with my older boy. He is having a great time. The main thing I always told them is they need to be a part of something in school, no matter what it is, jump in and be a part of it. The band has been amazing. What Jack will do, well, he is my rebel LOL..that may be another story.

  8. I LOVE this! Super awesome post lady– thank you…what a great reminder!

  9. You don’t strike me as a helicopter parent, Debbie. I think we all are on the inside, it’s controlling it that matters…you seem to be doing that.

  10. Thank you for your support and encouragement, Jen. I really appreciate it!

  11. Totally agree, Sharon. Great post!

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