Our Fall Family potluck is coming up in a couple of weeks. As I start preparing for it in my mind, I can’t help but be reminded of this story from the last potluck:
I wanted to put out my Fall decor in time for my annual Fall Family Potluck.
The front porch was going to be warm and welcoming. I was going to finally replace summer’s geraniums with Fall mums. Then I was going to wind fall leaf garlands around the pots.
Inside, my family would be greeted by perfectly placed ceramic pumpkins and decorative plates with Fall greetings. Harry Connick Jr. was going to be playing in the background, and their senses were going to be awakened with the savory smell of soup cooking on the stove.
Instead, I waved to my parents at the corner intersection as we were both pulling up to my house at the same time. Trying to beat them inside, I ran in through the garage and started grabbing groceries out of the sea of plastic sacks that my husband placed on the counter. He didn’t have any luck finding mums, so the geraniums stayed put.
And there was neither garland nor pumpkins. Instead, I pulled the tablecloth and acorn vase fillers I had just bought out of my car, and put my mom to work getting the dining room table ready. My Dad was feeling weak from hunger, so I gave him a jar of olives to hold him ‘til dinner.
In years past, these circumstances would have me completely stressed out. Not this time. I knew that my family didn’t expect perfection. I knew we would still have a good time, and we did.
What’s that saying, time + tragedy = humor. This story is funny to me now, but living it was so stressful. I don’t want a repeat of that this year.
I keep thinking about The Nesters’ going away party for her friend. They had hotdogs and hung out in the great outdoors, enjoying each other’s company. It was stress free entertaining at its best.
So, I’ve pretty much decided that even though I’m hosting again, I’m not going to fuss over the decorating. I’m going to fuss over my family instead.
~set up the buffet the night before
~make sure I have enough clean dishes for dinner and dessert,
~and have all of the groceries I need for the dishes I’m preparing on hand,
it will take the stress out of entertaining, freeing me to enjoy my family.
There’s a part of me that is having a hard time letting go of the fussy details. It’s always there; the must-do list with unnecessary tasks that we assign ourselves. This holiday season, I’m giving myself, and you, permission to go ahead and scratch some of those things off your list right now, without doing them.
Then, join me at Live Creatively Inspired for 5 Ways to Beat the Holiday Stress.
See you in class,