Unfortunately, our daughter seems to have learned a disappointing lesson; sometimes Christians get it wrong.
Friday, July 1st, dinner conversation
“Don’t do anything illegal…even if it’s legal there.”
“Okay. I won’t.”
“You do not have a license to go out and drink just because you’re not under our roof.”
“Please don’t drink and drive or get in a car with someone who has been drinking.”
“Okay. But can I have a drink with friends if we’re not going anywhere?”
“We don’t want you to have sex.”
“Date someone who shares your values.”
“Do you think I’ll even get asked out on a date?”
“Of course you will.”
“And, if you do struggle or face any of these things, please talk to us or Miss Summer.”
“Okay, but I don’t want the God answer.”
One week later
“So give me an example of the God answer. Pretend you’re in a scenario where you need to talk to someone and play both sides.”
Scenario 1 – Unanswered Prayers
“Things I’ve been praying a really long time for are going unanswered. I feel like giving up on praying about this.”
The God answer
“It just means God has a better plan.”
The right answer.
“I’m so sorry. I know how it feels. One time when I ……”
In other words, express empathy and compassion. Show me you understand. Relate to me. Let me feel what I’m feeling.
Scenario 2 – loss of a loved one
“Someone I’m close to passed away and I’m grieving.”
The God answer
“They’re in a better place.”
The right answer
“I know that. I don’t need to hear that. Ask me to share some memories or what I loved about them. Grieve with me.”
The God answer will fall on deaf ears without first entering into someone’s feelings, expressing sympathy and showing compassion.
Then, after you’ve walked with and been vulnerable to the other person, met them in their need, will they hear the God answer.
Proverbs 25:11-12 The Message (MSG)
11-12 The right word at the right time
is like a custom-made piece of jewelry,
And a wise friend’s timely reprimand
is like a gold ring slipped on your finger.
Praying our girl finds friends in California who won’t give her the God answer.
See you in class,