Ten days into the new year, and the “new me” hadn’t gotten the memo on my New Year’s goals yet.
She’s still chasing dark chocolate Reese’s cups with Mexican Coke for breakfast, and piling a mountain of mini marshmallows on her hot chocolate as a “winter treat” nearly every night.
And…there’s one lone Christmas garland still gracing my front porch. Pots and pans filled with leftover Christmas dinner are (by now) growing mold in the garage fridge, and I haven’t written a single goal.
I’m trying not to feel guilty about it, even though January, for me, is not the month for jumping in head first. I don’t know about you, but I need January to be still. To catch my breath. To think and ponder and envision.
Before I can even write a New Year’s goal, I have to think about this new me, first getting rid of the “new” part of that notion and accepting that it’s just me, continuing the growth that is already in progress. And, acknowledging, despite what the calendar says, I’m not starting a new race.
I’m just catching my breath so I can stay in the race.
Speaking of races, you’ve heard the saying, “slow and steady wins the race,” but it’s not easy being a turtle in a rabbit’s world. I’m struggling with FOMO, (fear of missing out) as everyone speeds past me with their shiny New Year’s goals, doing brand new things and making their mark on the new year, but I’m determined to stick to what I know.
And here’s what I know:
The race is a lifelong, always-in-progress journey where your only competition is your old beliefs and behaviors. So many of us make our resolutions, declare our word of the year and write goals without ever taking the time to discern how we got in the ruts we’re trying to get out of. But, you can’t out run them. They are always there with you until you take the time to reckon, wrestle and overcome. Then, and only then, will lasting change happen.
So, how do we do that? How do we escape the chains that hold us back?
The Clever Hanger Trick to Help You Stick to Your New Year’s Goals
To help you identify those old habits and beliefs that are hindering you, use this clever hanger trick borrowed from closet organizing:
When working with a client, once we’ve sorted and purged, it’s time to hang up all the clothes we decided to keep. But, we do that by hanging all of the clothes hangers backwards. Then, after a few months, or some other predetermined time, I encourage the client to take a look at the clothes that are still hanging backward. There are always a lot.
That’s when I ask the client to accept that not only are the clothes they’re holding onto no longer serving them, they’re taking up valuable closet space.
The same is true for the figurative backward hangers in your life.
These hangers could be:
- Spending habits
- Eating habits
- Limiting Beliefs
- Time Wasters
- Energy Drainers
How to Identify Your Hangers
Spend some quiet time, maybe even with a journal or pen and paper, and think about your day. As as you mentally walk through a typical day, make note of anything that seems to be a hindrance rather than a help. Or, do this in real-time and take note of your day as you go along.
Also, pay attention to your thoughts. For example, when I got up today, I somehow found my thoughts drifting to when I was a child, specifically my oldest child tendencies toward perfectionism, and I wondered why my mind had traveled there.
Then, as I sat down to pray, my earlier thoughts became clear as I connected the dots between my perfectionist tendencies and my current struggle to move forward and take action on an idea.
I was able to confess it, hand it over to God, and receive His grace and freedom to just be me, without trying to get every step right. Ultimately that’s what it’s all about; letting go of the things that trip us up so that we can run with endurance.
I want you to have endurance, for you and selfishly for me, because I want to run this race alongside you. So here are some of my favorite resources for letting go, starting new and sticking to your New Year’s goals.
4 Invaluable Resources for Sticking to Your Goals
I’ve provided links, including some affiliate links, to these resources. If you make a purchase through an affiliate link, I make a small commission at no additional cost to you. I’m so grateful for your support of Sharon E. Hines in this way!
- Eat Move Live 52 –I know these folks personally and quite frankly adore them! Last year their Real Food Reset Challenge (which is now a course) was a game changer for me in the area of food. This year, they are offering a free health planner (I’ve already watched the video and it is so encouraging and nurturing.) Whether you check out the course, (they have some other courses, too), read their books or start with their planner, you will love Roland and Galina’s slow, gentle approach to food, health and nutrition. I know I do.
- Get Organized Already – I love Nonnahs! She is so real, down to earth, approachable and fun. And she’s running a decluttering challenge right now that I am really enjoying. She works through each space with you, offering tips, accountability and companionship in each session. And she’s all about practical over pretty. Watch the challenge videos on YouTube, and join the challenge here.
- Life in Progress – Krista is a beautiful, kind, gentle, encouraging soul! Her goal is to provide hope and encouragement for an unshackled life of purpose, health and JOY. And she does just that. Here’s the Life in Progress Facebook page and website.
- Home on Purpose: Mindful Living in a Hectic World – Every time I think of something I want to encourage you in this new year, I realize “I already said that in my book.” Home on Purpose: Mindful Living in a Hectic World begins with reframing the way we think about the place we spend so much of our lives so that we can give it the importance it deserves in successful living. It goes on to offer some no-nonsense advice on how to manage your time more effectively, as well as what to do if you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired. It also offers very practical tips on decluttering and organizing including links to my favorite resources. The book also comes with a printable decluttering cheat sheet, sorting labels, my favorite DIY cleaner recipes and more. You can get your copy of Home on Purpose right here.
I believe you’ll find these resources invaluable, no matter when your new year starts. Wishing you success today and every day!
See you in class,
p.s. I was blown away by this recent review of my book that I discovered as I was grabbing the Amazon link to share with you.
By far, richly detailed based on personal experience as if sharing from one friend to another. I passed this on to a friend as a gift when she told me of her struggles in recreating her space. She tells me she loves the self-validation it offers for our unique individuality and yet how to use this strength to make positive changes to our home environment. As she is implementing the suggestion this author makes, she’s feeling great, not only in her at-home physical space but also in her emotional well-being as a direct result. Yes, I recommend this.